The statistics on infidelity are shocking. According to a survey by the Daily Telegraph, 3 out of 5 women in the UK admit to having had an affair, while only 3 out of 10 men admit to having done so. This means that the problem may also affect you! Is your relationship taking a turn for the worse and you have suspicions about your ‘other half’? We explain how a person who cheats behaves. Here are 15 symptoms.
Many people in relationships dismiss the idea that betrayal could happen to them – even if the relationship has clearly not been going as well as it should for some time. It is worth remembering that infidelity in a partnership is usually the result of a number of contributing factors. Even factors of which we may be unaware.
This is why we so often try not to think about the worst, even when we notice that ‘something is wrong’. We explain how the person who is cheating behaves. Here are 15 signs you need to look out for.
First signs of infidelity – what are they due to?
The reasons for infidelity vary, and it is often an individual issue. It is not true that marital infidelity only happens in unhappy relationships. Usually the relationship between two people looks perfectly normal, but at some point one person starts to feel that something is missing.
It is the desire for adventure that is one of the most common causes of infidelity. Some people need a new experience and are weary when routine creeps into the relationship. Another reason can be emotional distance – sometimes this happens when one person spends more time at work. This is when the other half seeks comfort from someone else.
Other common reasons for infidelity are:
- Dissatisfaction with sex life – lack of satisfaction in the bedroom is a serious problem that, if not properly addressed, can lead to seeking ‘sensations’ elsewhere.
- Lack of attention and appreciation – ignorance and neglect from the other partner can lead to infidelity and the search for happiness with another person.
- Low self-esteem – infidelity is sometimes due to a lack of self-confidence.
- Personal problems – depression, stress related to everyday life, unworked traumas or lack of understanding from the partner are also common reasons.
The first signs of betrayal always precede specific events. As a result, the situation starts to escalate and the faithful partner notices more and more worrying symptoms.
How does a person who cheats behave?
Over time, as an affair between one spouse enters a more advanced level, you may notice further worrying signs. How does a cheating husband behave, and how does an unfaithful wife behave? Find out the 15 symptoms you absolutely must look out for.
Change in behaviour
The first and primary symptom is your partner’s unusual behaviour. He or she may appear worried, indifferent or run his or her thoughts elsewhere. You will certainly notice that his or her manner is different from the one you know well.
Spending more time away from home
Regular, unusual outings from home are common behaviour for a husband who has a mistress. Wives also cheat in a similar way. If you see your other half going out more often without you or constantly running errands after work or out on the town, this could be a sign of infidelity.
Avoiding intimacy
Do you feel that your wife or husband is less affectionate towards you? They avoid physical contact and do not show you emotional support? This is one of the first signs of infidelity.
Decrease in sexual activity
Sudden changes in bed life, much less frequent sex and a lack of interest in intimate contact could be a sign that your partner is having an affair with someone else.
Exaggerated attention to appearance
How can you recognise that your wife is cheating on you? Pay attention to her attention to her appearance. If you notice that she has been paying more attention for a while, spends more time in the bathroom or paints herself in a more attractive way, something might be up.
The same goes for men who have a mistress. They, too, are trying to improve their appearance, although they did not previously focus on it to any significant degree.
Changing the style of dress
The exaggerated focus on appearance also applies to clothing. If things haven’t been going well in your relationship for a while and, in addition, your partner or partner has started to dress more attractively or even defiantly, this could be a sign of infidelity.
Hiding expenses
Have you stopped having knowledge of your joint money and, in addition, do you feel that your spouse is making secret transactions? Perhaps he is just buying an expensive gift for his mistress?
Avoiding joint plans
Planning for the future and including your partner is a common sign of a happy relationship. If you notice that this has changed for a while and you feel left out, you may be dealing with infidelity.
Sudden tantrums
A person who cheats is more prone to unreasonable mood swings. You may feel that he or she gets irritated for no reason, gets angry or raises the tone during ordinary conversations. Moreover, in such a situation, any attempt to talk about your suspicions is likely to end in a serious argument.
Hiding the phone
Men who cheat on their wives often block access to their phone to avoid coming across any evidence of infidelity. Women act in a similar way, preventing their partner from checking their call history, for example. If you know that your other half has not used your phone’s password in the past and is now doing so, there may be a specific reason for this.
Business trips
The excuse titled ‘business trip’ has now grown into a cliché. But no wonder – despite the obvious suspicion it arouses, many fraudsters still use it. When more and more of these types of trips start appearing in a partner’s schedule, something may be afoot…..
Changing online habits
Many romances begin with clandestine conversations via instant messaging or social media. Phone addiction and increased online activity are common signs of infidelity.
Spending less time together
A healthy relationship is one in which each partner has a moment alone from time to time. However, if you feel that recently the other person has completely stopped wanting to do activities together and seems indifferent, these could be signs of infidelity.
Lack of communication
Talking about problems and doubts is an extremely important part of a relationship. When you suspect your husband or wife of infidelity, a natural step is to communicate your concerns. If talking about this or other sensitive topics makes your partner angry, lacking in understanding or indifferent, your conviction may be accurate.
Changing work schedules
The sudden appearance of overtime at work is one of the most common first signs of infidelity. We assume that the partner exceptionally has more on his mind than usual, and ‘work’ seems to be a plausible excuse. In reality, this is common behaviour for a husband who has a mistress, as well as an affairing wife.
The best ways to spot infidelity
If you have had the feeling for some time that your partner is secretly seeing someone else, don’t delay and start taking action! Remember, the sooner you take care of your wellbeing, the less seriously your mental health will be affected.
Try talking to your other half and revealing your feelings to her. Another, much more effective way to check for infidelity is to use the services of a private investigator. He or she will help you gather evidence of infidelity with the appropriate discretion. Moreover, he or she will take care of your emotional comfort.
You can also try to investigate on your own. On the market you will find various types of voice recorders, wiretaps, mini spy cameras or infidelity tests to help you unravel the mystery.
Getting to the truth quickly is crucial. After all, the betrayed husband or wife must come to terms with the worst and try to put their life back together. The sooner they resolve the situation, the better. Furthermore, the impact of infidelity on the child’s psyche is significant. So if you have the feeling that your partner is not being faithful to you, act immediately!